You are now an engaged couple and everyone knows it. You’ve shared your wonderful news with the world and now it’s time to get down to business. There are a lot of items on your list that have to be checked off before you start going around looking for your color themes. First and foremost it’s time to look at how much you can spend on your day!
The budget: How much is too much?
When you look in magazines and online for wedding images, you will no doubt find an abundance of extravagant outdoor locations, seating covers, reception hall decorations, table center pieces and all kinds of beautiful little extra add ons. The wedding of your dreams can take you away to far off wonderful places. You don’t want to be woken up dramatically when you find out how much it all will cost.
Firstly, a wedding is a celebration and an announcement to the world that you are spending the rest of your life with your one true love. The two of you have to sit down and discuss what you are both able to afford to make that day memorable for the magic and not to look back and say ” we shouldn’t have wasted 2000$ on a crystal punch fountain” . There is no wrong amount to spend on your wedding, but just like when we were shopping for her ring, not everyone’s budget will be the same. Some weddings depending on faith and cultural backgrounds can wonderfully simplistic and cost in the 15,000$ – 25,000$ range. Other modest weddings can have a total price tag of 35,000$ – 50,000$. And of course there are the extravagant over the top weddings that can range from 75,000$ and up. It’s up to you and your bride to decide what your comfortable with spending. Come to a number that you both can agree on and then set sail to embark on a journey of your lives!
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Looking down this road you are going to see a lot of big price tags. Some avoidable, some flexible and some have no choice. To help find out which is which, you can divide your wedding into categories:
Ceremony, Reception, Food, Entertainment, Decoration, Floral, Attire, Photographer/Videographer and Miscellaneous. Each of these categories should be assigned a number that you are willing to/can spend on them. If you go over on one you can always cut back on another and still get respect your over all budget.
Your bride to be will no doubt want all the bells and whistles. Let’s face it, every little girl has had the vision of the perfect wedding since they were old enough to know what a floral arrangement was. There is hope though. As she grew up, her vision of the perfect wedding has no doubt been fine tuned. Now the two of you will begin to decide what kind of wedding you will have by filling in the categories. You will see the differences between a DIY wedding and a cookie cutter wedding. Where you might think one option is the less expensive but actually come to see that it’s not.
An example would be an outdoor ceremony vs. a traditional ceremony at a church or synagog. Outdoor ceremony you will have to pay for a location, an officiant or officiants, service company to supply chairs, an altar, an arch with flowers, carpet, a table for the official book signing and wedding license etc. Also having to factor in the weather in that if it rains you will have to rent a tent to cover it all. Where as indoors you will have to worry about is the extra floral arrangements for the seats. Of course you will have to make a “donation” to the church or rabbi but that would have been included when you started your ceremony category.
Make decisions as a team!
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There will always be something that you will want and she will not or vise versa. Remember you have now entered the world of compromise, whatever choices you make should be decided by how much you both want it. You will no doubt see a lot of advertisements saying “for the perfect day” or “no wedding is complete without…” Most of the time these ads are for those little extras. If you can afford them then by all means indulge yourselves. If you can’t, this is where your tact and suave comes into play.
Over the course of time between now and your wedding day, your bride will want to go to wedding events, seminars and blow outs. It’s your job as the groom to stay cool while you’re keeping an eye on her. Some brides will have a tendency to make their wedding the social event of the season and find herself in competition with every other bride out there. Over zealousness can come about quite quickly and destroy any hope you had of having a modest wedding. These situations can lead to fights and embarrassing circumstances. The last thing you want is a bride-zilla on your hands. That can put strain on your relationship, cause distance and in some extreme cases end your wedding before it began. But you’re in love and don’t have to worry about that. Be calm and collected and remind her that you have a budget to keep to. Hiring a wedding planner can alleviate a lot of these issues. If you aren’t really into planning and your fiancée is, hiring a planner is the best decision you can make. Your fiancée will turn to your trusted planner for all those cool ideas that you couldn’t care much about.
Now the fun can really begin!
So we have our ring, our fiancée and now our budget. It’s time to start dividing the tasks and shopping around to fill in your categories for where, when and how you want to get married. Buckle up and let’s roll!